Giada, diagnosed with Microcephaly, born healthy.


My ex wife and I conceived Giada about 13 months after our oldest, Giuliana , was born.

The pregnancy seemed to be going smoothly until around 5 months. At a routine ultrasound the doctor told us that our daughter’s head was too small and not going in porportion with the rest of her body and it appeared she had microcephaly.  We were advised to abort . They told us that she would be born with severe cognitive defects and couldn’t guarantee how long we had with her.

We refused and drove 4 hours to Albuquerque, New Mexico to get a second opinion. The doctor was confused as to why we were there because when he conducted his own ultrasound he was adamant that there was absolutely nothing wrong with Giada.

It never crossed our minds to abort Giada—not once- even after she was diagnosed with microcephaly. We just accepted she would need special care and attention and were prepared to walk through any hurdles that came our way. Whether we had seconds, minutes, hours, or years with her, she deserved our unconditional love every moment of her life.

We went back home and visited my ex wife’s doctor again and confronted her with the specialist’s opinion. Her only response was that the ultrasound equipment the clinic utilized was not as good as his equipment! We didn’t even get an apology for suggesting that our healthy daughter be aborted.

Our daughter was born completely healthy and is now a spunky 5 year old with the sweetest smile and an energetic spirit. So many parents place the very lives of their children at the feet of medical opinion. I can’t even fathom how many misdiagnoses there have been throughout the years; how many healthy children have been aborted; how many children ended up in a medical waste bin instead of in the arms of their parents; how many children have been been denied the opportunity to make their unique mark on the world - regardless of how that looks like.

Whenever you think there should be exceptions where abortion is permissible..... remember my daughter.

- Love Alex



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